In the work I do in the practice of coaching, wonder is so important to me.
I see wonder as being what allows us to approach something with an open heart and curiosity. I see it at the opposite of certainty. When we are certain about something, sometimes, it means we have already made our assumptions and judgments and we have closed ourselves off from other stories, of other ways of seeing an issue or an individual.
Valarie Kaur once said in one of her newsletter posts that who we wonder about determines whose stories we let into our hearts.
“To wonder is to let in a sense of awe, openness, and deep curiosity. It is to look upon the face of anyone or anything and say: You are a part of me I do not yet know. It’s an orientation to humility. Wondering about another person — their thoughts and experiences, pains and joys, needs and wants — gives us information for how to love them. It’s how we have learned how to love our partners, children, and friends. When we wonder about people we would otherwise see as strangers, and let even them inside our circle of care, then wonder becomes a revolutionary act.”
By choosing wonder over assumptions we are committing to a practice of stepping out of our own single narrative and seeking to discover parts of the Holy and parts of ourselves that are still hidden from us.
It is always a great time to open our whole selves to understand what the world around us may be telling or showing us. You never know what surprises wonder can bring.
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